with Liv Larsson & Kay Rung
30 oct 2021 - 19 may 2022
This program has two parts; learning skills, maps and theory and then putting it into mediation practice
A hands-on adventure in how to reconnect people.
Acting a third party is an opportunity to lend your communication skills to other in moments when they need it. In this program you will have a chance to learn, experience and practise mediation skills. We will practise informal mediation as well as formal mediation, reconciliation as well as mediation in a certain case. To take the role of a mediator is a way to test your own communication skills and where you still need to practice, gain clarity or grow in empathy and expression. Welcome to a practical training based on learning mediation skills with the approach of Nonviolent Communication (NVC).
First part practicing navigation with maps, and skill-training, creating clarity through key differentiations and litteratur. We touch on areas such as how shame influences conflict, trust-building in mediation, perspective taking etc.
Second part consist of mediation practice, feedback with video-recordings, and Q/A with trainers.
We start out with 6 intensive training days in-between Oktober - January. You are also asked to practise mediation in a smaller group in order to really integrate mediation. This training is crucial if you really want to be able to mediate. In the second part we meet as a large group 4 times and focus on questions as well as feedback..
Our training is most beneficial if you are willing to, try, and try again, learn from failures, receiving feedback and asking questions and then do it all again. (Perfection is a moving target)
The training is partly based on the book by Liv Larsson A Helping Hand (available in Swedish, German, English, Italian, Dutch, Polish and Finnish). We recommend you to read the book as part of your preparation for the training.
Introduction (to the group, structure and the mediation practice).
Form-clarity - intention with mediation.
What is a conflict and how do we react to it?
Mediators toolbox - part 1:Empathic presence, listening beyond sympathy.
Mediators toolbox - part 2:Helping the parties to listen with empathy.
Mediators toolbox - part 3:Interrupting with care
Mediators toolbox - part 4:First-Aid empathy - when things get rough.
Mediators toolbox - part 5:Self-empathy - processes on how the trainer works on being self-connected to be of help for others. Self-expression
Mediators toolbox - part 6:Tracking - How to keep track and focus on the parts that really matter.
Mapping conflicts, following the energy.
The pitfalls of the mediator.
How to build and rebuilt trust
Informal mediation. When to intervene and how. Formal mediation. How to start a formal media- tion. Contracts for mediation.
Formal mediation. Agreements and laws. Mediation with parties that do not want to meet.
Mediation practice in different settings (examples from reel life or practise scenarios in the workbook. Reconciliation - Restorative practises.
Variations of the NVC-mediation
Mediating challenging situations.
Shame in mediation and conflict
The Compass of Needs
Mediation when someone is withdrawing, silent - Mediation when someone turns to anger
Mediation when someone attacks themselves
Mediation with rebellion, self-sufficiency
Mediators self-care (Group, individual, pairs)
How to build empathy support for challenges
Dealing with judgments and labels.
Processing inner doubt, fears, anger.
Enemy image process.
Inner Chooser/inner educator process
This program is built on practise. It is a hands-on adventure in how to reconnect people and bring reconciliation and trust. Sometime there will be a pre-recorded session to watch before the sessions in our online forum.
Structured mediation practise in groups of 3-5 people (online or live). At least 22 sessions.
Weekly or bi-weekly empathy sessions with a buddy.
Individual or pair work
Analysing and understanding conflict
A set group of 3-5 people where you meet (on- or off-line) regulary to practise and deepen your mediation skills.
Included in this training
A workbook with structure and support for learning and practice.
An E-book of Liv Larssons A Helping Hand, Mediation with NVC.
is Certified Trainer with CNVC since 2002. She has worked as a coach, mediator and workshop leader since 1992. Liv has written 20 books on the theme of NVC, for adults and children, translated to different languages.The titles include Anger Guilt and Shame - Reclaiming Power and Choice, A Helping Hand- Mediation with Nonviolent Communication and Cracking the NVC Code - all of them useful for a mediator.
She lives in the north of Sweden and one of her contracts as a mediator is for Swedish FSC - Forest Stewardess Council - mediating between the indigenous group of Sweden - the Same - and the biggest forest companies in Sweden as well as mining companies.
Liv has been sharing her special way of teaching mediation skills to many different groups - from UN mediators to social workers and parents and has been leading mediation trainings in Australia, Europe and Asia. One of here special skills and areas of interest is how shame is affecting both the mediator and the parties in a mediation. Her passions are cross-country skiing, hiking, swimming, yoga, nature, her son, writing and connecting with people.
has been working with Nonviolent Communication since 1997. He has developed a specific pedagogical model to teach mediation with NVC as an approach. He is in charge of Friare Liv longer training programs. His is intrested in creating maps for navigating conflicts with more ease. He works internationally with conflict management and mediation, including in Japan, Thailand, Australia, India, Sri Lanka and Europe.
Who can register?
We want you to have at least 10 days of NVC-training before this event. We also suggest that you read A Helping Hand, Mediation with Nonviolent Communication by Liv Larsson. The book is available in Swedish, German, English, Italian, Dutch, Polish and Finnish many languages
(If you want to take part of the training and think you can benefit from it without the 10 requested days of training (maybe because you work as a mediator or of some other reason) please contact us before applying, so that we can decide about this together.)
If you want to join the program but you don't have the money we ask for you can send us a message with answers to the questions: How will you use the training, and who will benefit from you getting the training? and How much can you pay? We can give scholarships when we someone pays for a sponsor ticket.
Teacher lead sessions (Stockholm Time)
30-31 October 08:00 - 16:00
20 November 08:00 - 16:00
4 December 08:00 - 16:00
18 December 08:00 - 16:00
9 January 08:00 - 16:00
24 February 17:00 - 19:00
24 March 17:00 - 19:00
21 April 17:00 - 19:00
19 May 17:00 - 19:00
Time for practice in small groups will be added.
Prices and payment:
You can pay 1500€ when registering or 133€/month for 12 months. (1600€)
Paypal or credit card only.
No refunds after start of program.